owenhqrper:

Someone very nicely pointed out to me that I should have included sensual attraction in this graphic I made earlier. I’ve copy-pasta’d some of the more important text from that graphic although you should still read the other text too cause it’s still relevant! 

Firstly, the definitions on the graphic above are very very very very bare-bones, and it’s important to say that different people experience the different kinds of attraction in different ways, and also there are probably more kinds of attraction, but I believe these are the main ones and the most important to differentiate between.
Secondly, it’s also important to note that each person has their own limits and lines drawn between the different kinds of attraction. To some people, touching would be a reaction to aesthetic attraction; to others, it may be a romantic act; to others, sexual. Some people view kissing as sexual and others view it as romantic. Everyone, ace or allo, has their own borders and their own fences in between these different kinds of attraction and some don’t have any fences in between them at all, and just let them run around wild together. 
The first reaction I usually get when I explain the difference between sexual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction is something along the lines of “but no one looks at someone and just wants to have sex with them right away! everyone needs to get to know them first!” This argument is also a big part of demisexual erasure. Which is why I think it’s important to really differentiate between these types of attraction. And just because these three types of attraction go together for some doesn’t mean they go together for all. 

Again, and especially with the inclusion of sensual attraction, it’s important for me to point out that not everyone has the same standards for each type of attraction. What is included in sensual for some may be included in sexual for others. Asexual people can be sensually attracted to people and desire physical intimacy that doesn’t include sexual intercourse, in fact, many do. And I feel the need to point this out often and firmly because there are people in the asexual community invalidating EACH OTHER because few people seem to understand that not only is asexuality a spectrum, everyone exists on their own individual spectrum. 

owenhqrper:

Someone very nicely pointed out to me that I should have included sensual attraction in this graphic I made earlier. I’ve copy-pasta’d some of the more important text from that graphic although you should still read the other text too cause it’s still relevant! 

Firstly, the definitions on the graphic above are very very very very bare-bones, and it’s important to say that different people experience the different kinds of attraction in different ways, and also there are probably more kinds of attraction, but I believe these are the main ones and the most important to differentiate between.

Secondly, it’s also important to note that each person has their own limits and lines drawn between the different kinds of attraction. To some people, touching would be a reaction to aesthetic attraction; to others, it may be a romantic act; to others, sexual. Some people view kissing as sexual and others view it as romantic. Everyone, ace or allo, has their own borders and their own fences in between these different kinds of attraction and some don’t have any fences in between them at all, and just let them run around wild together. 

The first reaction I usually get when I explain the difference between sexual, romantic, and aesthetic attraction is something along the lines of “but no one looks at someone and just wants to have sex with them right away! everyone needs to get to know them first!” This argument is also a big part of demisexual erasure. Which is why I think it’s important to really differentiate between these types of attraction. And just because these three types of attraction go together for some doesn’t mean they go together for all. 

Again, and especially with the inclusion of sensual attraction, it’s important for me to point out that not everyone has the same standards for each type of attraction. What is included in sensual for some may be included in sexual for others. Asexual people can be sensually attracted to people and desire physical intimacy that doesn’t include sexual intercourse, in fact, many do. And I feel the need to point this out often and firmly because there are people in the asexual community invalidating EACH OTHER because few people seem to understand that not only is asexuality a spectrum, everyone exists on their own individual spectrum. 

windcalling:

we’re here, we’re queer, we’re kinda tired and don’t really want to go to class

cisyphus:

Slurs are not oppressive because they are offensive, they are oppressive  because slurs by nature of being slurs draw upon certain power dynamics  to remind their target of his/her/their vulnerability in a certain relation to power and as an extension of that, to threaten violence and exploitation of that vulnerability.

ponett:

(queer teen makes obviously facetious post saying it’s cooler to not be cis and het or “why would you want to be cishet” so they can feel better about their identity)

"UM CAN YOU NOT TREAT BEING QUEER LIKE A FASHION STATEMENT? BEING CISHET ISN’T A CHOICE EITHER YOU KNOW"

(one million notes from straight people)

khelish:

aight let me say this tho. when biphobic lesbians say things like ‘i don’t wanna be anywhere a guy has been” or the more cissexist/transmisogynistic “i don’t wanna be anywhere a dick has been”

you’re. kind of treating a bi woman like a used object. and totally qualifying her based on her past experiences. and deciding what does or does not impact her worth and “purity.”

and ur a piece of crap.

field-notes-on-feminism:

probablywriting:

cutebabe:

that angry feminist stereotype is 100% accurate. we have every right to be angry. tbh, if you call yourself a feminist and YOURE NOT angry, you probably need to do some more research into why feminism exists in the first place 

Fun fact!  Michael Kimmel once spoke at my school and when someone asked him how people could refute the ‘angry feminist’ stereotype he just said that feminists are angry, and this is an exact quote, “Because anger is the rational response to injustice.”

Exactly how I feel.

(Source: e-brat)

turkeyinacan:

shoutout to people working weekends and overnights and overtime, people working in hospitality and retail and food service, who are sacrificing time with their loved ones, so fuckers with weekday desk jobs get to live comfortably with the amenities we provide while simultaneously shitting all over us for not getting “real jobs”

anahitawtf:

autisticenjolras:

don’t use uteruses as symbol for feminism ok

here’s why:

  • you’re excluding trans women
  • you’re including some trans men
  • you’re excluding cis women who may not have a uterus because they’ve lost it because of or to avoid #cancer 

stop doing this it’s so gross

Also:

  • You are reducing being a woman to an organ.

psa

airbornranchdressing:

since it’s almost october aka halloween month i just wanna remind people to take extra care to tag things like horror, blood, gore and other halloween related things for those of us who don’t deal well with a lot of those

also spiders. tag your fucking spiders.

theappleppielifestyle:

fygirlcrush:

Men have written thousands of stories about how having a toxic relationship with their father has completely ruined their lives

but then make fun of girls for having “daddy issues”

ok.

 - via fygirlcrush